5 Motherhood Mantras I learnt from my experience #Momology
I am not a Parenting expert but Yes ! I am a parent having 12 years of experience. I am a Mom to a daughter who turned twelve year old in Jan 2019. Nobody is born with special skills in this world . We all learn from here and there – from our family , our surroundings and certainly by our mistakes in the process of learning . The same applies to Parenthood ,or I should say motherhood in my case . Parenthood is a great skill and I think we all are learners . In the process , we all form our own Parenthood mantras .
I can’t call myself very emotional woman but If I analyze my 12 years of parenthood till date , what I find is that I am becoming quite emotional as I am growing as a Mom. Right on the day of birth of my daughter , the happiness flew as tears when I looked at the little wonder for the first time . Just watching her while breastfeeding or when she performed for the first time on stage in the school , again made me emotional . May be the Heart was just not able to hold that immense happiness .
I want my child to have a bold attitude towards life .
I can call myself bold and bindaas who takes life as it comes . I don’t keep worrying much about the problems the Life poses . I face them boldly and I try to face them with a smile. I allow Time to heal my problems . All problems are not meant to be solved just by myself . I want to develop the same attitude in my daughter . She should be having the strength to face any problems alone and find a solution herself .
My motherhood mantras
Ok now let me concise my Motherhood Mantras – I mean whatever I have learnt during my journey of being a Mom so far .
- Be your child’s friend
Enjoy your child’s company . I know there are times when you feel overburdened with your job or other responsibilities but don’t you feel that your child’s smile has the special power to relax you and make you smile ? So why not be child’s friend and spare few minutes to enjoy some silly moments with your child ? May be scribbling with colors or dancing or playing Peekaachoo . Peekaachoo Up Peekaachoo down ! Heeheehee! You would certainly remember and miss such things in future . When you spend some playtime with your child , they even obey you . I feel so.
“The JOY of MOTHERHOOD comes in MOMENTS…Take time to listen, to laugh, and to play together.”
2. Involve your child in any household chores and don’t forget to praise
Who doesn’t love to be praised ? Everybody feels good and motivated on hearing anything good about himself . So is true when it comes to children. Involve your child in the little tasks – may be filling a water bottle or laying the dinner table or packing his schoolbag on his own. Any task but don’t forget to praise him for that ,especially in front of any guests or his friends . Just avoid talking about child’s mistakes when some guests are there . Also please avoid complaining about the child to his teacher in front of the child .
3. Let the child also take important place in family decisions
Last year when we were planning for shifting to new home , we made it a point to let our daughter sit along every time while budgeting or planning what to buy . It felt good to watch her make a budget in her diary and accordingly add or subtract ‘to be purchased’ items . She certainly felt responsible . From the last 3 years , I allocate her a fixed budget for her birthday party and she does all the planning . And I am happy she does it quite well.
4. Reserve some time especially for your child before bed time
It can be story time , book reading , playing a game , listening about her friends , her day at school or just cuddling . Those hugs and kisses are so important to make your bond stronger . Your bond with your child should be such that he/she shares each and everything with you and respects your advise .
5. Stop the unnecessary hurry
I tell you that we as mothers often feel overburdened or irritated by various responsibilities – may be cooking , washing or other jobs being a wife or a homemaker or working mom. And finally what happens is that we yell the frustration away on our child . Dear mothers keep it in mind that ye kaam kabhi khatam honge hi nahi and at 90% of times there is no emergency of the work , but we keep rushing from one task to another . I love a dialogue from one of my favourite hindi movies where Dipika Padukone says “ ज़िंदगी में जितना भी चाहो कुछ न कुछ तो छूटेगा ही , इसलिए जहाँ हैं उसी का मज़ा लेते हैं ना” So why not stop that unnecessary hurry and spend some quality moments with your child .
Motherhood is a divine gift . Form your own Motherhood mantras and enjoy the journey . Do share your best Mantra in the comments . Happy #Momology
I am submitting this post as a part of #Momology blogtrain hosted by wonderful mothers Roma, Zainab , Geethica and Prisha .