5 Motherhood Mantras I learnt from my experience #Momology

I am not a Parenting expert but Yes ! I am a parent having 12 years of experience.  I am a Mom to a daughter who turned twelve year old in Jan 2019. Nobody is born with special skills  in this world  .  We all learn from here and there – from our family , our surroundings and certainly by our  mistakes in the process of learning .  The same applies to Parenthood ,or I should say motherhood in my case . Parenthood is a great skill and I think we all are learners . In the process , we all form our own Parenthood mantras .

I can’t call myself  very emotional woman but If I analyze my 12 years of parenthood till date , what I find is that I am becoming  quite emotional as I am growing as a Mom. Right on the day of birth of my daughter , the happiness flew as tears when I looked at the little wonder  for the first time . Just watching her while breastfeeding or when she performed for the first time on stage in the school , again made me emotional . May be the Heart was just not able to hold that  immense happiness .

I want my child to have a bold attitude towards life .

I can call myself bold and bindaas who takes life as it comes . I don’t keep worrying   much about the problems the Life poses . I face them boldly and I try to face them  with a smile. I allow Time to heal my problems . All problems  are not meant to be solved just by myself . I want to develop the same attitude in my daughter . She should be having the strength to face any  problems  alone and find a solution herself .  

My motherhood mantras

Ok now let me concise my Motherhood Mantras – I mean whatever I have learnt during my journey of being a Mom so far .

  1. Be your child’s friend

Enjoy your child’s company . I know there are times when you feel overburdened with your job or other responsibilities but don’t you feel that your child’s smile has the special power to relax you and make you smile ? So why not be child’s friend and spare few minutes to enjoy some silly moments with your child ? May be scribbling with colors or dancing or playing Peekaachoo .  Peekaachoo Up Peekaachoo down ! Heeheehee!  You would certainly remember and miss such things in future . When you spend some playtime with your child , they even obey you . I feel so.

Playing with cake- a moment on her birthday

“The JOY of MOTHERHOOD comes in MOMENTS…Take time to listen, to laugh, and to play together.”

Playing with sand at the Goa beach

2. Involve your child in any household chores and don’t forget to praise

Who doesn’t love to be  praised ? Everybody feels good and  motivated on hearing anything good about himself . So is true when it comes to children. Involve your child in the little tasks – may be filling a water bottle or laying the dinner table or packing his schoolbag on his own. Any task but don’t forget to praise him for that ,especially in front of any guests or his friends . Just avoid talking about child’s mistakes when some guests are there . Also please  avoid complaining about the child  to his teacher in front of the child .

3. Let the child also take important place in   family decisions

Last year when we were planning for shifting to new home , we made it a point to let our daughter sit along every time while budgeting or planning  what to buy . It felt good to watch her make a budget in her diary and accordingly add or subtract ‘to be purchased’ items . She certainly felt  responsible . From the last 3 years , I allocate her a fixed budget for her birthday party and she does all the planning . And I am happy she does it quite well.

Read my post on Motherhood- The Divine Love

4. Reserve some time especially for your child before bed time

It can be story time , book reading , playing a game , listening about  her friends , her day at school or just cuddling . Those hugs and kisses are so important to make your bond stronger . Your bond with your child should be such that he/she shares each and everything with you and respects your advise .

Mom’s kiss before going to bed

5. Stop the unnecessary hurry

I tell you that we as mothers often feel overburdened or irritated by various responsibilities – may be cooking , washing or other jobs being a wife or a homemaker or working mom. And finally what happens is that we yell the frustration away on our child . Dear mothers keep it in mind that ye kaam kabhi khatam honge hi nahi and at 90% of times there is no emergency of the work , but we keep rushing from one task to another . I love a dialogue from one of my favourite hindi movies where Dipika Padukone says “ ज़िंदगी में जितना भी चाहो कुछ न कुछ तो छूटेगा ही , इसलिए जहाँ हैं उसी का मज़ा लेते हैं ना” So why not stop that unnecessary hurry and spend some quality moments with your child .

Quality time of Mom-Daughter at the Pastry shop

Motherhood is a divine gift . Form your own Motherhood mantras and enjoy the journey . Do share your best Mantra in the comments . Happy #Momology

I am submitting this post as a part of #Momology blogtrain hosted by wonderful mothers Roma, Zainab , Geethica and Prisha .

Monika

Hi, I am Monika, an educationist for the last 17 years and a mom to a daughter for the last 11 years . Give me a hot cup of masala tea with some snacks plus a laptop and I am happy ! My Blog is a mixed bag of my observations ,learnings and experiences . To me , life is love, life is helping & learning from each other. Life is not that complex -We just have to stop overthinking .

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6 Responses

  1. Vartika says:

    Lovely post, Monika. It’s indeed very important to be our children’s friend and spend quality time with them.

  2. Anita Khanna says:

    Very nice Monika .The tips are quite powerful.I admire your views for life .

  3. Aesha Shah says:

    I can relate to your mantras. My daughter will be 10 years in a couple of months and I realise it’s important to be here friend. But I also assert that I am her mother when there are pre-teen tantrums or demands and she knows that that line though blurred does exist and has to be respected. Also, I follow a bedtime routine with her similar to yours where both of us first write in our daily journal and then read for some time, all these increases our bond. Then there is also nonsense chatter and giggles amongst us before bedtime. To have a daughter is definitely a blessing.

  4. anupriya says:

    Most of the tips mentioned by you are very apt. My kids are a little too young to be involved in family or household decisions, but I do involve them in decisions that are age appropriate for them. For example – our sunday outings are always based on their demand. Or their playtime is what they want to do, with an ccasional interjection by me.

  5. Alpana says:

    I loved your parenting approach. My daughter will be turning 11 this year and I can see many emotional changes in her. Being her friend is something I strongly believe in obviously within limits. I cannot go overboard. Giving them independence in decision making is not just help them in independent thinking but also they feel involved and less likely to become introvert and make screen their close friend.

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  6. I like the part where u have mentioned involve them in chores and involve them in decisions. such an important point has been highlighted. #Momology @clanpedia

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