Calm down ….Calm down …..
Why this phrase ” Calm Down ” has to be used so often? – sometime we tend to say it to any of our friends or vice-versa. What puts us in stressful situations ? Do we actually need to calm down ? What should be done to calm ourselves ? Any tips ?
Almost daily I can hear someone asking in the office – ” Agli chutti kab hai yaar ?”( When is any next holiday coming up ?) Why does it happen that we are waiting for the weekend or any other next holiday ? Even I question myself why I always wait for the weekend ? And it is not like that weekend becomes a complete rest for me . I am a mom , a homemaker – How can I sit idle ? I have scheduled lots of pending works for the weekend . I have to do laundry , dusting , have to do chopping -grinding of veggies as a pre -preparation for the next weekend , have to help my daughter in her school project , have to color my hair, etc.etc. So I am not free even when it is holiday . But then what is the reason I wait for my next holiday from office ? Why ? I analyzed that there are some stressful situations which I want to run away from at least for a day .
At home also , after a gap of few days or may be one or two months , we tend to say ” Chalo yaar kahin ghoom ke aaate hain ” . Notice we are not even comfortable at home . It means the home or the family life also is somewhat putting us in stressful situations and our mind needs to get away from that jhik-jhik . Run away from that fuss and feel Calm .
My Dad taught me some tips that help me many times whenever I am in any stressful situation . The tips actually work .
3 Useful Tips to Be Calm :——
1.Everything matters but nothing matters Much . My Dad has taught me this principle as a fundamental to be calm .
The plan you made has failed ? No problem , It doesn’t matter Much . Move on to your second plan which was kept as a back-up .
Your boss assigned you an additional task ? DMM – Doesn’t matter much . He found only you capable of handling it .
Your spouse said something unhapppy ? DMM- Doesn’t matter much . He/She must be tensed . Try to find what he is going through . Just pass a smile and most probably a smile will be returned back .
Of course there are many situations that definitely matter Much – e.g. some health problem or some family dispute . We do need to take serious concern for that and give the situation our full attention and love . How we show the caring attitude at that time -that definitely matters Much .
But the tiny little things in the routine life that make us stressed can definitely be avoided with the principle DMM(Doesn’t matter Much)
2. Follow the Middle Path Middle path is the best path Be you are in any of the situations . It can keep you happy and satisfied .
You want to go for a vacation but are worried about the expense ? Follow the middle path . Fly while going and enjoy the train journey for the return . In this way you saved the costly air journey one way and your pocket smiled . I did so on my Nepal vacation .
Your friend played a trick with you ? You felt angry ? want to fight ? Follow the middle path . Just avoid your friend without uttering even a single wrong word . Your silence would reflect your anger and your friend may realize his mistake .
3. Overthinking will destroy your mood . Breathe and let go !
The daily life’s chaos put us in overthinking mode . We tend to create problems and tensions about the situations unnecessarily . Thinking always of what went wrong , what can go wrong , why did someone behave like that , why is it happening just with Me ? Think Think Think ……How much ? Till when ?
My dad always says -Stop Overthinking . Distract your mind from the situation that is forcing you to overthink . Get busy in some other work . You are not meant to solve all the problems . Time is also a great healer . Let the problems get solved on their own with time .
Are you sometimes frustrated with your job ? Are you the one who say ” Kahan fas gaye yaar ?” Think ,Think ,Look for better job options . But till then please Stop overthinking and fussing about your present job . You are earning good , better than many others . Go to cafe and enjoy coffee with burger !
Did something make you cry today ? No problem . Don’t overthink about the person or the happening that made you cry . Your tears relaxed you . Now wipe away ,breathe and talk to a friend with whom you can have a hearty laugh .
There are many ways we can invent for ourselves to be calm . It is in our hands only . Life is very short . Let’s try to live Simple , Satisfied and Calm .
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