#Queer Mother – Motherhood is not just a gender but a feeling #B!ogchatterA2Z #Astitva #genderqueer

“Bdhai ho Ladka hua hai ” everybody was so happy at my birth as my parents got blessed with a boy after many vows . Mom sometimes used to  dress me up even in frocks ,  putting on a bindi too  and playing with me out of  fondness of motherhood .   As I was growing , I never liked playing with the toy cars or bat-ball ,rather I would be happy playing ‘ghar-ghar’ with the girls in neighbourhood . I  would rub my mother’s lipstick on my lips  and play with her dupatta  all day long . As I grew to enter a school , my teachers noticed some unusual traits . My teachers called my parents and said ” Your son sometimes shows feminine traits ” Slowly everybody could notice  that I was showing bit  queer identity .  My mom now scolded me  if  I put on a bindi  or  asked for a dupatta .Once in a family function , one of my aunts asked me “What would you like to be when you grow up ? ” My quick answer was “I want to become Aai (mother)” . My parents took control of the situation saying I was too small to think of all this and that a police officer’s son would definitely like to go in Police . My identity had started putting me in quandary who was I ? Man ? A woman ? No I was neither . I didn’t know the meanings of any of the non-binary sex terms at that time but time taught me I was a genderqueer- A Transgender . Everybody showed the back but I faced it . It was my #Astitva .  God wanted me this way . I  embraced my queer gender identity . It was my choice , so what if my parents didn’t understand ?

Now  I am a happy member of the Transgender community . I  depict a masculine identity when I write  Shri in front of my name because of my  original biological definition , and on the other hand I live a feminine identity by attire as well by heart .  Yes I feel like a woman and want to live like . I now expertly  depict  my third identity too  by clapping unusually, dancing ,  and demanding money from a family “Bdhai ho Ladka hua hai ”

This is about  the Transgender Shri Gauri Sawant , who was originally born as Ganesh . She is now working as Transgender activist , fighting for their community rights . Their team works with sex workers too   and Shri Gauri Sawant gave no second thought before adopting a girl child of one of the sex workers as she passed away . Now she is the queer mother to that girl named Gayatri . Gauri  Sawant says ” Gayatri needed a mother and  I became one . I didn’t get married , I didn’t get pregnant , But I am a mother . Motherhood is not just that female parent , motherhood is a feeling .” Now Gauri Sawant is fighting to adopt her daughter Gayatri legally . You can read more about her here or go to her facebook page . Listen to the flamboyant activist sharing her experiences , struggles , her contributions to society and her questions to the society .



Hi, I am Monika, an educationist for the last 17 years and a mom to a daughter for the last 11 years . Give me a hot cup of masala tea with some snacks plus a laptop and I am happy ! My Blog is a mixed bag of my observations ,learnings and experiences . To me , life is love, life is helping & learning from each other. Life is not that complex -We just have to stop overthinking .

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2 Responses

  1. Anita Khanna says:

    Salute to the hidden feeling of being mother put in everybody despite gender by nature itself .This feeling is godly to nurture life .Very good information you shared Monika ji.

  1. April 29, 2018

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