#Uterus On Rent – Challenges of a Surrogate Mother #BlogchatterA2Z #Astitva

A piece of Fiction on “Uterus on Rent “

As he does it once every month  ,  Ajay left early from his office today because his son Sujoy had come along with him and it was a Dad’s promise to his son about one hour games time  at the Centra mall in the evening before they reach back home.

” Bye Sujoy , have fun at the Centra , Love you  ” almost everybody in the office has a friendly bond  with Sujoy   as the 4 year old  steals everybody’s heart by his  smile .

At the mall

” O Hi Ajay , What a pleasant surprise ! How come you are here ? ” His colleague Manoj’s   sudden appearance didn’t please Ajay

” Just came for Sujoy to enjoy  the kids rides ”  Ajay replied in a formal voice trying to avoid him

” O I see , but ,  don’t you always take Sujoy to Centra mall , how come  today here at Waves mall ? ”

Manoj’s  eyes were turning  around to look for  baby Sujoy when he suddenly  noticed him with a woman , who was certainly not his mother. She was trying to explain how to play with that toy helicoter which she probably had gifted him just now .

“Unhh Unhhh…. Ajay -you clever  horse !! who is she ?” Manoj  giggled while glancing  at the beautiful woman clad in a saree and  he whispered in Ajay’s ears ” Should I tell Bhabi G about this extra marital love  ?”

Hmmmm , Ajay sighed ” That woman in saree  is not my love Manoj  , she is Sujoy’s love ” Ajay answered calmly

” And my wife already knows it because she only opted for surrogacy to have Sujoy ”


My thoughts on Surrogacy and its challenges

Surrogacy is where a woman agrees to carry and give birth to a child for another person who will become its parent at birth . Genetic  Surrogacy is done altruistically or commercially . By altruistically means that the surrogate mom is not paid for her service . She offers her uterus as an act of altruism .  While commercial surrogacy is paid, where she offers her uterus on rent .

The altrusitic surrogate mom does it as a selfless service , as an act of kindness towards the couple or may be she herself wants to relive the pregnancy feelings .  During the journey , the baby and the  surrogate  mom  develop a bond which sometimes is difficult to forget in future too .  As in the above story , the lady in saree might be the baby’s altruistic surrogate mom who had develped a  special bond with the child over those 9 months . That bond  still  pulled both mom and child towards each other .

Challenges of a surrogate mom

  • The act of surrogacy  can  be very emotionally disturbing for the woman . It may  bring feelings of kind of prostitution .
  • The act of providing her uterus on rent can bring into mind the questions regarding her being treated as a commodity .
  • During the journey of carrying a child within her , she may develop deep emotional  bond with the unborn child and may be she is not ready for separation from  the child after delivery .
  • The woman may do this act for meeting her personal financial needs .

Few  arguments in favour of  Surrogacy :

  1. Surrogate moms do it wishfully . So there should not be any problem.
  2. It’s a profession just like any other , getting paid for their work.
  3.  If they don’t accept money for it, then their selfless act is a great blessing for a childless couple.
  4.  Commercial surrogate moms receive medical, nutritional  and overall healthcare through surrogacy agreements.

Few arguments against Surrogacy  :

  1. Surrogacy is like selling her reproduction system .
  2.  Why go for surrogacy when there are so many orphans who can be adopted  and rather should be adopted.
  3. The rented mother may develop negative feelings .
  4. The sanctity of marriage is destroyed .

Surrogacy is a debatable topic but  this technique is  adopted by many . Inspite of all the pros and cons of it , the emotional problems related to  the uterus of mother can’t be overlooked .  The issue remains much deeper seated.




3 Replies to “#Uterus On Rent – Challenges of a Surrogate Mother #BlogchatterA2Z #Astitva”

  1. Glad you wrote about this Monika, personally I feel no doubt a child can be adopted so why go through this when there are countless children who need a home. But to each his own. It can be extremely difficult for the surrogate mother to part with the child but I do not see why it destroys the sanctity of a marriage, This is done with the consent of all parties and there is nothing immoral in it

  2. beautiful post on surrogacy. its true there is always an emotional imbalance when the mom has to part the baby, although she accepted for money.


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