S stands for Second Sex .
By Second Sex , they mean Women . Now the question is that why is SHE addressed as the Second Sex ? Why is SHE considered at the second position ? Why is it always HE at the first position ? Is the woman still seen as a secondary thing , a subordinate to the male society ? Yes She is , she is still trying to find her real existence , she bewails of her thwarted existence . She still feels angry when some factors stand in her way , blocking her path to her real independence , success and happiness .
A woman is still juggling for total liberation
Simone De Beauvoir , the French feminist and philosopher has written at length about a woman . She has made a detailed analysis of a woman’s oppressions , the unjust treatments or the mental pressures she has always been facing .
It’s true that Women have progresed in many fields but this is also not false that there are still constraints on her . It’s true that women have won their freedom , they are bold , they are no more financially dependent but it’s also not false that she still is not completely freed of the patriarchal pressures .
For the working women , their job or their work can’t be called as total freedom . They have to face the exploitation at workplace , along wih the universal fact that her job can’t free her from the household chores . She is the one who is supposed to take care of family’s needs , clean the house and ofcourse cook for the family , keeping the stomaches and hearts happy . Rather a working woman experiences double pressure – of job and of household chores . Juggling her life , it becomes difficult for a working woman to find the balance . Many times she sacrifices but those sacrifices are hardly noticed by the man of the family , leaving her psychologically tensed . The woman is ready to work hard . She finds happiness in her hard work , she finds satisfaction in juggling between home and job , she puts in best efforts to take care of her family , but when her efforts are not appreciated or she is not loved back , then her fatigue is many times multiplied .
A woman is fretful of her thwarted existence
Thwart means that she is opposed , she is bound to frustrate by the societal conditions . Since childhood , she was told how to play with dolls or kitchen sets . She was told to wear bangles and also that Pink was her favourite color . She was given instructions on how to sit or stand . She was told about how to behave like a girl . She was taught to be quiet , shy , compromising in nature . She was taught to bear the menstruation cramps without making any screams . So since childhood only , she is seeing herself as an object , behaving the way the society wants . When she grows up , then the woman she has become misses the girl she was . In her childhood , how secure and independent she felt in the cozyness of her parents , how she felt like a butterfly spreading the colors of happiness in her friends’ circle . But what has happened now when she has grown up ? She has been shifted from her father’s warmth to marriage cage , where she is judged all the time . Her mind questions “Who am I ?What did I want to become ? What have I become ? Is this what I wanted ? Is this my destiny ? She keeps thinking and thinking whether her life has been misspent , with the worries of the remaining life also .
She wants to rise in her job but she is asked to compromise for her kids and family . She wants to smile and feel light but the family pressures burden her . She needs a supportive shoulder but the husband is just not ready to give the required help . She just wants to be herself , but the society’s ill eyes see her body through her dress , she is made to listen the abusive remarks, she is hurt physically and emotionally , she ( the second sex ) is used for the first sex’s sexual pleasure . She demands her real existence , her #Astitva . She is a woman , she is still struggling to secure her existence amidst the societal norms or crimes .
When will a woman’s existential quarrel end ?