#The Second Sex – A woman’s Quarrel over her existence #BlogchatterA2Z #Feminism #Astitva

S stands for Second Sex .

By Second Sex , they mean  Women . Now the question is that why is SHE  addressed as the Second Sex ? Why is SHE considered at the second position ? Why is it always HE at the first position ? Is the woman still seen as a secondary thing , a subordinate to the male society ? Yes She is  , she is still trying to find her real existence ,  she bewails of her thwarted existence . She still feels angry when some factors stand in her way , blocking her path to her real independence , success and happiness .

A woman is still   juggling for total liberation 

Simone De Beauvoir , the French feminist and philosopher has written at length about a woman . She has made a detailed analysis of a woman’s oppressions , the unjust treatments or the mental pressures she has always been facing .

It’s true  that Women have progresed in many fields but this is also not false that there are still constraints on her . It’s true that women have won their freedom , they are bold , they are no more financially dependent but it’s also not false that she still is not completely freed of the patriarchal pressures .

For the  working women , their job or their work can’t be called as total freedom . They have to face the exploitation at workplace , along wih the universal fact that her job can’t free her from the household chores . She is the one who is supposed to take care of family’s needs , clean the house and ofcourse cook for the family , keeping the stomaches and hearts happy . Rather a working woman experiences double pressure – of job and  of household chores . Juggling her life , it becomes  difficult for a working woman to find the balance . Many times she sacrifices but those sacrifices are hardly noticed by the man of the family , leaving her psychologically tensed . The woman is ready to work hard . She finds happiness in her hard work , she finds satisfaction in juggling between home and job , she puts in best efforts  to take care of her family , but when her efforts are not appreciated or she is not loved back , then her fatigue is many times multiplied .


A woman is fretful of her thwarted existence

Thwart means that she is opposed , she is bound  to frustrate by the societal conditions  . Since childhood , she was told how to play with dolls or kitchen sets . She was told to wear bangles and also  that Pink was her favourite color .  She was given instructions on how to sit or stand . She was told about how to behave like a girl . She was taught to be quiet , shy , compromising in nature .  She was taught to bear the menstruation cramps without making any screams .  So since childhood only , she is seeing herself as an object , behaving the way the society wants . When she grows up , then the woman she has become misses the girl she was . In her childhood , how secure and independent she felt in the cozyness of her parents , how she felt like a butterfly spreading the colors of happiness in her friends’ circle . But what has happened now when she has grown up ? She has been shifted from her father’s warmth to marriage cage , where she is judged all the time . Her mind questions  “Who am I ?What did I want to become ?  What have I become ? Is this what I wanted ? Is this my destiny ? She  keeps thinking and thinking  whether her life has been  misspent , with the worries of the remaining life also  .

She wants to rise in her job but she is asked to compromise for her kids and family . She wants to smile and feel light  but the family pressures burden her . She needs a supportive shoulder but the husband is just not ready to give the required help . She just wants to be herself , but the society’s ill eyes see her body  through her  dress , she is made to listen the  abusive remarks, she is hurt physically and emotionally , she ( the second sex )  is used for the first sex’s  sexual pleasure .   She demands her real existence , her #Astitva . She is a woman , she is still  struggling  to secure her existence amidst the societal norms  or crimes .

When will  a woman’s existential quarrel end ?




Hi, I am Monika, an educationist for the last 17 years and a mom to a daughter for the last 11 years . Give me a hot cup of masala tea with some snacks plus a laptop and I am happy ! My Blog is a mixed bag of my observations ,learnings and experiences . To me , life is love, life is helping & learning from each other. Life is not that complex -We just have to stop overthinking .

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3 Responses

  1. Anita Khanna says:

    Very Nicely written how a woman is still trying to find her true existence as a human being

  2. Dipika Singh says:

    A strong point being put up well by you Monika. Many a time we brush it off thinking its happening since ages, let it be. But this let it be is eating up generations after generation with the same thinking.
    This need to change.

  3. Sunita says:

    Well said mam. I think this is a transitional period in India. As men are ready to grab her salaries but are not ready to accept her existence

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