#Orthodox Mindset — The unjustified and cruel principles of society for a woman #BlogchatterA2Z

As I am writing this post today , I am actually right now in an annoying mode , I am grumbling since afternoon as I came to know of someone( a male someone) talking something irritating about me , at my back . It irritated me more because I have always respected that man and I always talked to him friendly . But he made fun of me ( in some other sense )   in his friend’s circle . The word ‘ghatiya’ comes to my mind  for such a man . And there are  many men deserving this adjective in our society .

The present society , the 21st century , has made very advancements in the various fields, but  unfortunately , the society is still Orthodox . The mindsets of people are very very Orthodox , conservative , baseless , brainless and heartless . And the Orthodox mindsets are more specifically for a woman . What a woman is wearing , where is she going , what time is she going , with whom she is talking , how she lives her life , has she got married , why she is not marrying , there must be some defect in her that no one is accepting her ,  all this interests other people and society very much . They enjoy talking of these things .

Prefer giving birth to a son

Even the educated people adopt many procedures to be blessed with a son .  If someone gets first baby a daughter she is pressurized to take another chance along with those son procedures .  They somehow find the way for sex determination of the child although it is illegal . And if it comes out to be a girl , then  it is aborted  or in some rural areas , the mother has to face some cruelty along with her child’s abortion . What is the Mindset of the society – what special the son is expected to bring ?


While finding match for their marriageable sons , many families dramatize like “Nahi nahi hume kuch nahi chahiye ” but again they put demands indirectly , may be a car  or gold for the couple , giving it the name of financial security of the new couple . And the girl’s family is no less responsible I think . They give even  more than just the  demands of the groom’s family , giving it the name of their status and the words like ” log kya kahenge ”  . How much justified is this principle ?

Treating woman just as a sex object

The rape cases are rising day by day . Everyday one can hear of such crimes , like the recent Kathua gangrape case in India , of a 8 year old girl named Asifa. She was raped and then murdered inside the premises of  a religious place . And such  is not just one case . What would you call it ? Saying just Orthodox won’t do justice for the persons doing such a brutal crime . Such persons are brainless , heartless , mentally ill criminals who can go to any extent to satisfy their sexual desire . Such people see a woman , she be of any age , just as a sex object .

Even the  judicial system  is Orthodox

The judicial system in India is also Orthodox , the same age old laws and rules are being followed . The law should be so as to give instant judgement in such crimes . The rapists should be shot immediately so that anyone trying to attempt any such crime  in future is shockingly  alarmed . But our laws keep delaying justice and  even when  the final judgement comes , it is in most of the cases just paper justice , not the real one .


Discrimination against women  is almost everywhere

Starting from little abuses which a woman faces in streets to the worst sexual assaults , a woman faces many Orthodox mindsets ,like it’s always the woman who  is meant to do household chores  , it’s always the woman who always needs the protectiveness of her father or husband , it’s always the woman who has to adjust in her in-laws family even if she has to face domestic violence , it’s a woman who may have to face  the acute crimes like bride burnings or acid attacks.  The list is a long one .  Every  question of this long list is trying to assassinate a woman’s existence . The point is that why a woman is all the time discriminated . Why is she considered as The Other Sex ? Why is always  woman The Victim ?

As Mahatma Gandhi had said  ” To call woman a weaker sex is a libel ; It’s man’s injustice to woman .” But how to  teach these words  to the criminals of an Orthodox society ?


Hi, I am Monika, an educationist for the last 17 years and a mom to a daughter for the last 11 years . Give me a hot cup of masala tea with some snacks plus a laptop and I am happy ! My Blog is a mixed bag of my observations ,learnings and experiences . To me , life is love, life is helping & learning from each other. Life is not that complex -We just have to stop overthinking .

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3 Responses

  1. Sayanti Deb says:

    Agreed with you, Monika. When the judicial system of a country is so orthodox, what more we can expect from the people of this country. Our country is developing. But, our mindset is still walking in the orthodox road.

  2. Anita Khanna says:

    Well said Monika ji .God know when our society get education in this respect and start giving respect to all women

  3. Dipika Singh says:

    So true Monika, I have seen and witnessed many such incidents where men/women coming from affluent families, good education but still with ‘sankuchit soch’. I can only feel pity for them, nothing else.

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