Why Not Yell Away the Anger ?#writetribeproblogger

I wanted to write about myself. What should I write ? My positive points or negative points ? What are my positive points ? What are my negative points ? I had to spend few minutes thinking about all this. My mind could bullet down many characteristics about myself but I doubted how many were the positive ones. Heart wanted to write about one of the finest qualities about myself.

Sitting next to me was my better half , when I asked him about my qualities , he went into a deep thinking mode , unnnn……,  ticking his brain , & then suddenly said ” You yell many times  ” he made a teasingly smiling face too.

Hearing this, I quickly acknowledged it. Yes , I do yell many times.But  is this the quality I should write about myself ?

Heart & Brain shook hands and decided to write about this yelling only , whether it’s positive point or negative.

Yes,  I yell but  also calm down quickly. So what’s the harm ?  Why not yell away the anger ?

Anger is part of  our lives  , whether over a petty issue out of the  motherhood assignments  or some frustration at workplace or the typical tiny daily challenges of marital life .

Many people advice to take deep breaths or drink water, count 1 to 10 or walk a little to calm oneself. But I am just not able to take any pause .

Yes, I yell but  also calm down quickly.

If I get angry over someone or something , I find it better to reflect my anger by yelling instead of just mumbling. By yelling, my anger is quickly tossed away in air and my mind is again free like a bird. I get calmed down so quickly,  in less than 5 minutes. No bad feelings at all about the person after it has been yelled away.

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By not expressing anger and keeping it just to myself , wouldn’t I be harming myself even more ? Better the other person also gets to share a piece of the burnt cake. After all , we should share everything.

In marital life challenges , we often have diversion of thoughts, simple discussions sometimes become shouterschat. In one moment I am yelling ( which intensifies my spouse’s anger ) and in another two minutes I am giggling ( which intensifies his anger even more )

I don’t know if this is a good point about me  or not . O ho , I know what you want to say . That  this is a negative point and I need to work upon it . Ok Ok I will try but as at present  it’s there and I happily accept it. It keeps me relaxed .

Instead of burying my anger feelings or shying it  away from others , Why not just yell away the anger ?

Instead of piling up my anger that may cause a bigger explosion of internalized anger (may lead to high BP or depression ) Why not just yell  away the anger ?

Am I the only one who prefers to yell away the anger ?

I am taking part in WriteTribe #writetribeproblogger Challenge October 2017

 

 

Author: Monika

Hi, I am Monika, a teacher by profession and a part time blogger by interest. I share my thoughts about life here at AluBhujia . You can find my thoughts in Hindi as well as English language. To me , life is love, life is helping each other & learning from each other.

4 Replies to “Why Not Yell Away the Anger ?#writetribeproblogger”

  1. Well I do yell of course. But I’m not too happy when I do. It vitiates the atmosphere of the house and while I may calm down pretty quickly, which I do, where’s the guarantee that the others affected by my yelling will calm down as quickly too? I’d much rather train myself to not lose my temper at all – but that’s really far from happening just yet.

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